Alright long story short.my fiance and I used to be very good friends with two other couples since college. We drifted apart from them due to jobs/location and just different lifestyes and interests. The two other couples remain good friends. The girls and I no longer talk and two of us live in the same town and if we run into each other it’s a very brief “god get me out of this conversation” type of thing.
He wants them to be invited—I think it’s a waste of time especially since in the last two years they had not been good friends to us.
We were slower at getting financially stable out of college compared to their successes. We were excluded because we chose to not do things (vacations, parties..etc) based on finances. One day they finally stopped inviting us because we always said we couldn’t afford it-which was true. We always explained that we just couldn’t do certain things with them because we were trying to save for a home, and get out of credit card and student loan debt. Now that we are doing great–it’s like they are dumbfounded and can’t believe we are even getting married. Now this is hear ’say’ from another friend but at a recent get together the two girls said “i bet thier wedding won’t even be a good time because they probably couldn’t afford to have a nice one”. It may be an exxagerated comment since I didn’t hear it myself, but knowing how I know these women–it’s likely truth in it.

Anyways. I don’t think they need to be at our wedding. He doesn’t talk to the guys (their husbands) anymore but still feels they should be invited. Me and the girls had drama over the drifting a part crap. We’re going on 26….and i really don’t have time or want to deal with drama.
Wedding planning is enough drama. How can I convince my fiance that they really should not be welcome at this special event?

And on another note–why take the drifting a part so seriously ladies??? I expected as people get married, have kids you don’t see friends as often. It’s nice to get together on some weekends and catch up, but other things become priorities and I just don’t get why people take it so over the top…..
Thanks for the great advice! after reading some of your post I realize that it’s better to work at convincing him they should not be there (his mom is on my side with this ). I know I will be busy that day but just the fact of having them there will be a damper because it will bring up memories of the negativity they had shown towards us and likely still do….